You might be wondering what the best thing to do is. Whether you’re concerned about the relationship you’re in, or you are worried about a friend. Here is some advice on your next steps…


Talking to someone


It is really important to talk to someone as soon as possible. That could be a helpline, a teacher, a youth worker, doctor or someone else you trust.


Worried what will happen if you talk to someone?


Confidentiality policy means if you talk to a professional, they do not have to tell anyone about your conversation, unless they are worried you, or someone you know might be hurt. Then they have to report it.




  • If a professional has to pass the information on, they will tell you that they are going to do that.

  • Worried all your friends will find out? Don’t be, it has nothing to do with them.

  • Asking for help is a really hard thing to do, but when you’ve made the first step, the professionals can support you!


If your worried about a friends relationship, do not get directly involved this could be dangerous for you and your friend. Speak to an adult you trust first.




  • Your friend might not realise they are in an abusive relationship

  • They might be scared what would happen if they leave, or not ready to go

  • They do have feelings for their partner

  • YOUR support is the most important thing to them.


If you are worried about your own relationship, check out our safety plan to help keep you safe. When you have spoken to an adult you trust, they can help you make your own.